Well, today has been interesting! At the shops, Tyger was finding it difficult to wait in line as there seemed to be so many people around holding food (us included). He went and got the dividers (which nobody was using because they were using large amounts of space around their purchases as dividers). Tyger proceeded to put down the dividers between the food and move the food up so less space was wasted and indicated to the next person to put their stuff down, then he put another divider down AND THEN put down his bag of chips and stood back with such a enormous smile on his face.
Out of the three people there, he got one glare, and two grateful thank-yous. As the glare was non-verbal and the thank-yous verbal, he only noticed the thank yous and was so proud of himself for being helpful. One woman even gave him another divider, acknowledging what he was doing. Then another woman came up behind us and he made room for her, getting another thank-you. Only if more people would adjust their own behaviour to give children the chance to be helpful and acknowledge that instead of glaring at them for getting in the way! It was one of the more positive outings given and I am pleased for that experience.
This afternoon, Kalea came in cross cos Tyger whacked her in the head with the shovel. (She was fine, just pissed off). I asked her if he was digging and she whinged and said again he hit her. Asked again, was he digging and finally got a yes, he was digging. I patiently started to explain again about how deaf people can't hear so if someone is talking behind their back they don't know.... and Kalea cut me off and said "Yes yes yessssssss I know blah blah blah and Tyger has autism and blah blah blah"
Lol. Guess it is sinking in. I said "Well if you know he isn't good with body perception, then why didn't you move over when you saw he was digging and was too close to you? You are great with knowing when someone is too close." I got a big suffering weary sigh and then a "Yes Mama, I'll go tell him he is close and that is why I got hit in the eye.... and I'll move away."
Part of the struggle is helping the siblings understand and modify their own behaviours where necessary to account for disabilities! Autism (and deafness) is frustrating for siblings just as much as they are for the person living with said disability as I'm sure my brothers would attest!